"Parenting a strong-willed child is the biggest invitation to grow that you will ever have."
Jenny Hale, pg. 19 of the latest Parenting magazine
Those of you who've been following me for a while know how much I have struggled with Turbo. He is an amazing and intelligent boy...and o, so, so strong-willed.
This whole article was written for ME!
"At times you will feel exhausted, powerless, bullied, guilty and overwhelmed." Yes, yes, yes.
And I'd like to add "trapped" to the list.
The two four-hour sessions of kindy per week are just not enough but they simply cannot offer more due to huge waiting lists and demand, and we can't afford daycare, even with the government help.
With strong-willed children, there is often a constant barrage of demands and challenges, and this has really been wearing me down. I have felt low, and depleted and on the verge of tears a lot of the time.
I said to Mr Samoa last night that I feel like I'm taking orders from Turbo sometimes!
I KNOW yelling and threats are no-goes, but I found myself doing just that a lot more than I should.
So yesterday's email from a public kindergarten saying they had space to take Turbo for four mornings was really a bit of
I actually would have preferred to take three mornings but that's not how it works.
Four it is. Big jump.
But maybe he can skip one every couple of weeks.
I think it's going to be so good for both of us.
And hopefully my emotional reserves will start to fill up again!
One day, Turbo's strength and decisiveness will inspire others and I'll be glad for his ability to go against the grain, know what he wants to achieve and to perservere.
"Parents of such strong children need every tool in the box and the flexibility to choose which tool for which time."
And so my
daily hourly prayer is for wisdom so that I can bring him up well.